Episode 339

Uncovering the Hidden Roots of Self Sabotage

Published on: 12th December, 2023

Primary Topic: The Power of Root Causes

- Introduction to the concept of root causes and their connection to personal growth and success

Sub-topics:

- Explanation of how behaviors and actions are influenced by underlying factors

- Importance of self-reflection and increased awareness in uncovering root causes

- Identifying recurring patterns of behavior and moments of self-doubt

- Examining reasons for procrastination and lack of motivation

- Tracing back root causes to childhood experiences and fears of failure

- Delving deeper into personal history and exploring past experiences and relationships

- Emphasizing the need for an open and nonjudgmental attitude during this process


Primary Topic: Challenging and Reframing Beliefs

- Recognizing the need to challenge and reframe beliefs that hold you back


Sub-topics:

- Questioning the validity of current beliefs and considering healthier alternatives

- Difficulty in changing deeply ingrained beliefs

- Viewing past failures as learning opportunities instead of judgments on self-worth

- Replacing the belief that failure defines you with the understanding of growth

- Using setbacks as a part of the process and practicing self-compassion


Primary Topic: Seeking Support and Practicing Self-Compassion

- The importance of seeking support and practicing self-compassion during the journey


Sub-topics:

- Seeking support from friends, family, mentors, or coaches

- Sharing insights and progress with someone else for fresh perspectives and encouragement

- Recognizing that change takes time and setbacks are normal

- Treating oneself with kindness and understanding, similar to a good friend

- Emphasizing the role of self-discovery and growth in evolving into the best version of oneself

Transcript
Janice Chaka [:

Hello, and welcome to the traveling introvert. So today, I wanna talk about the power of root causes. So imagine a tree's branches reaching out towards the sky, its leaves dancing in the breeze. Yet beneath the surface, the tree's health and growth intrinsically tied to its hidden roots. Where are the roots? What are they doing? What's been going on down there? And, similarly, your personal growth and success are really deeply connected to your understanding of the root causes of self sabotage, and we all do it in some way, shape, or form at some stage. So to shed some light on this sort of concept of self self sabotage. I wanna talk about root causes. So just as the tree's roots go and look and find nourishment and stability, our behaviors and actions are influenced by underlying factors.

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Often hidden in our subconscious, these factors can be traced back to often hidden in our subconscious. These factors can be traced back to experiences, beliefs, culture, emotions, the all of these things that shape our self perception and decision making. Consider a scenario where someone continually procrastinates on their goals. On the surface, it might seem like a lack of motivation, but the root cause could be a fear of failure stemming from childhood experiences. So self reflection awareness. The journey to uncovering root causes for self sabotage begins with self reflection and increased awareness self Set aside time to think about and really examine any recurring patterns that you have of behavior. Identifying moments when you felt stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmed by self doubt. For instance, think about cases where you hesitated to take on new changes or maybe when you downplayed your achievements.

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These instances can often offer clues to deeper causes. Apple. Imagine you want to advance in your career, but realize you're avoiding applying for promotions. Reflect on why this might be happening. Could it be linked to a fear of not being good enough or a fear of rejection or maybe a past experiences experience contributed to your feelings. It could be any of those things and then then sort of trace back to origin. Once you've recognized a pattern of self sabotage, kind of delve deeper into your personal history. Explore your past experiences, relationships, maybe significant life events that might have influenced your beliefs about yourself.

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This step requires an open and nonjudgmental attitude on yourself. Don't blame yourself. This is a journey of self discovery and growth. Then think about challenging and reframing these beliefs. When the root cause is insight. It's time to challenge and reframe the belief these beliefs that are holding you back, and this involves questioning the validity of your beliefs and replacing them with healthier, more empowering alternatives, and this step can be challenging as these beliefs might have been deeply ingrained over years decades. Maybe if your fear of failure, for example, originates from childhood childhood experiences, remember that these events were learning opportunities, not definitive judgments on your worth. We place the belief that failure defines you with the understanding that it is a stepping stone towards growth.

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Another thing you can do is seek support and practice self compassion. Unearthing root causes and making significant mindset changes can be a complex process. It's important to seek support from friends, families, mentors, coaches. Sharing your insights and progress with someone else can provide a fresh perspective as well as encouragement. Additionally, practicing self compassion throughout this journey is really important, understanding that change takes time, and setbacks are part of the process, assess not you failing again. Treat yourself with the kindness and understanding that you would offer a really good friend facing similar challenges. Much like a tree that thrives when its roots are healthy and nourished, your personal growth how success will be better when you uncover and address the root causes of the self sabotage. Remember, you're not defined by your past actions or fears.

Janice Chaka [:

Instead, you're evolving and then grow and let me try that again. You're involve evolving and growing into the best version of yourself. Embrace the journey of self discovery for it's through understanding that you can finally get to where you need to be. Thank you for listening. This is Janice at the career introvert helping you build your brand and get hired. Have a great rest of your

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The Traveling Introvert
A bite-sized podcast about traveling while running a business and being an introvert.
Not knowing what introversion was until my 30s, I feel that I wasted some of my early years by not really understanding myself. An inspiration for my business is that I want to help others understand themselves better, earlier on in their careers and their lives. Introversion is a very misunderstood area – introverts can suffer mentally and physically because people typecast them or act negatively towards them. It’s not nice to be trapped in a little box. When you label somebody, they tend to act like that label, which stops people from achieving their true potential. I don’t let being an introvert define me, I let it guide me.
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