Episode 383

Building Sustainable Relationships with the 531 Rule

Published on: 30th July, 2024

**Sequence of Topics Covered in "5 3 1 rule" Episode:**

1. **Introduction to the Episode**

- Welcome message

- Introduction of the 531 rule

- Goals of using the 531 rule for social health and networking

2. **Explanation of the 531 Rule**

- **The "5" Component**

- Spending time with 5 different people a week

- Flexible scheduling (cram into one day or spread out)

- Diversity in social connections

- Examples of interactions (friends, family, coworkers, neighbors)

- Encouragement to branch out beyond immediate circle

- **The "3" Component**

- Nurturing 3 close relationships

- Importance for introverts to have deeper relationships

- Strategies for nurturing (messaging, support)

- Each relationship requires different nurturing approaches

- Intentionality in reaching out

- **The "1" Component**

- Aim for 1 hour of quality connection every day

- Flexibility in how the hour is divided (e.g., 10 minutes chunks)

- Focus on meaningful, quality interactions

- Adaptation to different personal schedules and connections

3. **Purpose and Flexibility of the 531 Rule**

- Explanation that the rule is a guideline, not strict

- Acknowledgment of individual differences and circumstances

- Flexibility for alterations based on personal life

4. **Benefits of Adopting the 531 Rule**

- Sustainability in building and maintaining networks

- Importance for job opportunities and networking

- General human well-being

5. **Challenge to Listeners**

- Encouragement to spend an hour of quality time per day

- Closing message and thanks to listeners

- Reminder of the podcast’s purpose (helping build personal brand and get hired)

This structure encapsulates the main topics and sub-topics discussed in the episode, providing a clear and comprehensive sequence of the content covered by Janice Chaka.

Transcript
Janice Chaka [:

Hello, and welcome to the Traveling Introvert. Today, I want to talk about the 531 rule and how that can help you build your network and not only that but sustain your network. Because the main thing is when we think about having to network and meet new friends and get new people in our lives, It's like, well, I barely see the people I have in my life right now as it is. Why am I adding more? And so I want to talk about the 531 rule for, like, social health. And so you can use it for all things, but let's talk about it from a point of relationships, nurturing relationships, and networking. So the 5 is spend time with 5 different people a week. And you could cram that all into 1 day or you could space it out over the 7 days of the week. But spending time with 5 different people a week should be the goal.

Janice Chaka [:

And, you know, the more diverse the social connections you have are, it's basically linked to, like, a better well-being. So it could be friends, family members, coworkers, neighbors. It's good to prioritize a diverse range of interactions from long walks with a best friend to sort of brief chats with your neighbor. And try and branch out of your immediate friends and family at least for 1 of those 5. Right? It could be anything sort of hobby related or like book group for financial wellness. Something that got bought up recently. Something of The that sort of stature for, like, 5 in a week. And then nurture 3 close relationships.

Janice Chaka [:

And so we're really good as Introvert at wanting deeper relationships, talking about deeper things with people, not having these sort of lackluster relationships, but it does take work. So during your week, think about what that could look like to nurturing a close relationship, to nurturing 2 close relationships, to nurturing 3 close relationships. And it could be, you know, just messaging that person, who's close to you, asking how they're doing, asking how you can help and support them. What does nurturing look like? And each relationship that you have is different. But thinking and being intentional about reaching out, being intentional about nurturing will deepen those relationships and sort of make things better overall, and you would have put the time in. And then so that was 5, and then there was 3, and then the 1 is aim for 1 hour of quality connection every day. It doesn't actually all at once. It could be a sort of 10 minutes here, 10 minutes there of quality connection.

Janice Chaka [:

Like, 10 minutes you call a friend, 10 minutes you message a friend on on on asynchronous messaging. It doesn't have to be, like, 1 side out. They're like, okay. And then do this hour and do this thing. No. Just in general, around 1 hour a day of quality connection. So the thing is it just has to be meaningful for that quality connection. And so it's fine to take this as a rule, but it's a rule of thumb.

Janice Chaka [:

The 531 rule is a guideline for you, guardrails for you to know what you're thinking about. Because everyone is different and everyone has different, sort of spheres that they are part of and circles that they are part of. So maybe, you know, 5 people over a week might be too much. Or to find 5 people in that week might be too much. People on vacation, someone is sick. You've got a heavy workload. This isn't something that if you don't do it, the world will crumble, but it is something that you have to be intentional about. And the more frequently you do it and it becomes a habit, The more intentional you are doing things, the easier it will become.

Janice Chaka [:

And so that's how you can think about nurturing and growing your network in a way that is sustainable. And growing that network and keeping that network alive is really important for jobs and, networking in general and also just for you as a human being. So I challenge you this week to spend an hour of quality time per day with some way in some way, shape, or form. Thanks for listening. This is Janice at the career introvert helping you build your brand and get hired. Have a great rest of your week.

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The Traveling Introvert
A bite-sized podcast about traveling while running a business and being an introvert.
Not knowing what introversion was until my 30s, I feel that I wasted some of my early years by not really understanding myself. An inspiration for my business is that I want to help others understand themselves better, earlier on in their careers and their lives. Introversion is a very misunderstood area – introverts can suffer mentally and physically because people typecast them or act negatively towards them. It’s not nice to be trapped in a little box. When you label somebody, they tend to act like that label, which stops people from achieving their true potential. I don’t let being an introvert define me, I let it guide me.
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